Love Languages Personal Profile for Wives
To Get Started: The profile consists of 30 pairs of statements. Circle the one statement in each pair that best represents your desire. Your wife may or may not do some of these, but if she did, which would you prefer? Once you’ve made your selections go back and count the number of times you circled each individual letter and write in the appropriate blank at the end of the profile.
A. I would love to get a funny email from my husband.
E. I wish my husband would hug me more.
B. I like to be alone with my husband.
D. I wish sometimes my husband would take my car to be washed, or do some act of service without being asked.
C. I would love for my husband to bring me a special gift, no occasion needed.
B. I enjoy long trips with my husband.
D.I would feel really loved if my husband did the laundry.
E. I like it when my husband touches me.
E. I would like my husband to put his arm around me sometimes when we are in public.
C. I wish my husband would bring me gifts when he travels.
B. I wish my husband was more enthusiastic about getting out and going places.
E. I like to hold my husband’s hand.
C. I feel loved when my husband gives me gifts.
A. I know he loves me but I want to hear my husband say it.
E. I like for my husband to sit close to me.
A. When I’m all dressed up, I wish my husband would compliment me.
B. Spending times with my husband makes me happy.
C. I wish my husband would give me more small gifts that still mean something.
D. I wish my husband would help clean up without being told.
A. I would like to hear my husband say he’s proud of me.
B. No matter what we do, I love doing things with my husband.
A. I would like to hear more supportive words from my husband.
D. I wish my husband would not only say nice things to me, but do nice things for me.
E. I love to hug my husband.
A. I wish my husband would praise me more often.
B. I wish my husband would give me gifts that are more thoughtful and personal.
B. Just being around my husband makes me feel good.
E. I wish my husband would give me a massage.
A. If my husband would react positively to my accomplishments, that would be encouraging.
D. I wish my husband would help me with tasks that he doesn’t enjoy – just because he know it would help me.
E. I never get tired of my husband’s kisses.
B. I want my husband to show more interest in things I care about.
D. I feel loved when my husband helps me with projects.
C. I still get excited when opening a gift from my husband.
A. I wish my husband would compliment me on my appearance more often.
B. I want my husband to listen to me more and respect what I have to say.
E. I can’t help but touch my husband when she’s close by.
D. When I have a lot of errands to run, I wish my husband would sometimes offer to help.
D. I would feel like giving my husband an award if he helped me around the house.
C. I would feel loved if my husband’s gifts showed signs of thoughtfulness.
B. I wish my husband would give me his undivided attention when I’m talking to him and not play with his phone.
D. I would love for my husband to help clean the house.
C. I look forward to seeing what my husband gives me for my birthday.
A. I know my wife loves me, but I wish she’d tell me more often what I mean to him.
C. I wish my husband gave me gifts more often.
D. I wish my husband would help me, without my having to ask.
B. It bothers me when my husband interrupts me.
C. I never get tired of receiving gifts from my husband.
D. I would like for my husband to offer to help me when I’m tired.
B. It doesn’t matter where we go, I just like going places with my husband.
E. I wish my husband and I cuddled more.
C. I wish my husband would surprise me with a gift more often.
A. My husband’s encouraging words give me more confidence.
B. I love watching movies with my husband.
C. I wish my husband would give me a gift for no reason.
E. I would love it if my husband touched me more.
D. It means a lot to me when my husband helps me despite being busy.
A. I wish my husband would say, “I appreciate you.”
E. I love embracing with my husband after we’ve been apart for a while.
A. I want to hear my husband say he misses me when I’m gone.
Excerpted from The 5 Love Languages.
A. Words of Affirmation
B. Quality Time
C. Receiving Gifts
D. Acts of Service
E. Physical Touch
Which love language received the highest score? This is your primary love language. If point totals for two love languages are equal, you are “bilingual” and have two primary love languages. And you have a secondary love language or one that is close in score to your primary, this means that both expressions of love are important to you. The highest possible score for any single love language is 12.