One of the easiest ways to being to making more abundance and success into your life is to find ways in which you still feel undeserving.
The amount of money you are attracting into your life is in direct proportion to how much you can love yourself.
I’ve told more than a few clients, “The moment you can say that you completely and profoundly love and accept yourself, we are probably done with our work” What exactly does this mean? Embracing your inner self-indulgent teen? Becoming a narcissist? Not quite, although the initial phases do look like that.
Years ago when I began my own path towards self acceptance and love I found that I had to let go of layers of guilt. Culturally, women are supposed to be the selfless ones. We are imprinted from early on that our nature is loving, nurturing, and caring for others. This implies that we disregard or minimize our own needs and desires. This is a common theme amongst my female clients.
When I tapped through the feelings I had that putting myself first was wrong and reached a place where I began to see that I was indeed a better person, mother, and member of society I went through what Carolyn Myss describes as a necessary part of this process. I then became very indulgent, and at times like a rebel. If you weren’t given a chance to individuate as a teen then this may be extreme. This often looks like the proverbial “middle-life crisis”.
After this period came a real yearning to change what didn’t work in my life. When you open up to the voice of the heart and evolve from that teen age self love into a spiritually more awakened love with your self, you begin to see clearly what direction your life should take. When this shift happens we know in our bones that by taking care of ourselves we are tending to our spiritual nature as well. The truest sense of the term self-love then is having passion for our lives.
The heart’s voice can be very frightening since it tends to be countering most of the rational mind’s directives. The choices we’ve made in our lives to become romantically involved with someone who we aren’t suited to be with, stay in jobs that suck our life force energy, or do anything for that matter that is a “should” not really in alignment with who we really are, will now be up for reexamination. Imagine the feelings produced from a deep inner knowing that,”I’m not living the life I am meant to be living”.
By constantly trying to shut out the heart’s yearnings we become conflicted to the point where opportunistic dis-ease may take hold. This is something I see every day in my practice. As Carolyn Myss says, “At this point, inner tranquility becomes elusive”.
Here’s my advice for using EFT throughout this process –
1. Tap on guilt and the events from your past that you can’t forgive yourself for. You won’t feel you deserve more than your current circumstances if you are bogged down with the things you still hold against yourself from your past actions.
2. Tap on any resistance to listening to your heart’s desires. That resistance is really the voice of past hurts, betrayals, and disappointments. Write down those specific times when you followed your heart and it failed to bring you what you wanted then tap and release each one. You’ll see insights with the tapping and understand what lessons were learned from each event. The heart’s path is rich with life lessons.
3. Tap on fear’s about how life might change as a result of pursuing this journey. Ego wants comfort and guarantees. It wants comfort and security over risk. Making a leap out of your comfort zone will be yes, uncomfortable. EFT will easily release these fears.
Remember that the key here is to be specific with your tapping statements. After seeing my clients’ lives literally transformed and my own life that would have been unrecognizable to my old self of 10 years ago, I know just how much better life is in the heart zone!