Most people would say that true love is always eternal. If a divorce or separation happens then by definition this partnership wasn’t “the one.”
Love can be both a hormone-inducing, mind-altering, heart-racing feeling as well as a solid, stable, easy, comfortable knowing that you are with the right person. This doesn’t always happen but when it does and you choose well, then it’s like heaven on earth.
You know you’re in this type of relationship when everyone around you is thrilled by what they see in you – most notably the joy you are expressing. This type of earthmate-soulmate relationship comes in many forms. Interestingly enough, contrary to our cultural myths, shared interests and hobbies really have little to do with it. (How many times have you seen opposites attract?) Because our “compatibility” as in shared hobbies have little to do with lasting love couples that met through online dating services experience the same high rate of divorce as the rest of the population.
In this elevated type of coupling there is a mutual respect for the other and a desire to see this other person feel fulfilled as well. You don’t lose yourself in this love but become the best possible version of yourself. There is also a super-resiliency that these couples exhibit that researchers like Dr. John Gottman have written about. It’s not that these couples don’t have conflicts, it’s that they are able to come back after a disagreement and be stronger as a pair.
Most people would say that true love is always eternal. If a divorce or separation happens then by definition this partnership wasn’t “the one”. There was some flaw in the match and when you can learn from it then you can go on to correctly seek what’s best for you in the next relationship. The most important part of the process should be in discerning any detectable repetitive pattern in the people you choose. Often when there is, then the roots of the attraction were likely subconscious and begun as a way to resolve old baggage from your family of origin. Heal that and you’ll never be blindsided by a bad relationship again.
Here are the most common patterns I see:
1. Being in relationships without passion. If the passion was really there in the beginning it’s not likely to ever happen. The reason why you might keep attracting this type of relationship is because you are subconsciously afraid to have so much passion with another. Find the origin of your wounded heart and you’ll break the spell.
2. Being in a relationship with a rage-aholic. I can’t think of one instance when this wasn’t connected to unresolved parental issues. Which of your parents frightened you with their rage and anger? Heal that through EFT or Matrix Reimprinting and you’ll find peace either in or out of your current partnership.
3. Being involved with someone who doesn’t respect you or treat you like you are the most special person in their lives. Can you say LOW SELF-ESTEEM? Yes, that’s right, it’s all related to your inability to love yourself enough to know without a shadow of a doubt that you deserve better. Tapping on the roots of the low self-esteem will shift this instantly.
