By the 3rd week of January over 25% of people that started the new year with a resolution have already broken it.
Resolutions are all about change. However, changing thoughts and behaviors are challenging when the subconscious mind is resistant.
It is said that there are three types of change; ego-based, heart-based and the ones that are thrust upon you. Ego-based change happens when you want to make changes on a superficial level that perhaps are to impress others, e.g. losing weight to get into a bikini in the summer to get attention, making a lot of money to buy a new car to keep up with your neighbor, or fall in love so you can impress your friends at your college reunion.
Heart-felt change is what we call your soul’s mission. Examples may include losing weight because of the journey you’ll be on towards self-discovery and a renewed sense of power, making money to fulfill a dream to build an alternative school in an inner city, or falling in love so you can experience the growth that happens when you learn to be deeply intimate with another human being on a daily level.
Changes that are thrust upon you can be the most disconcerting but hold the greatest possibility for transformation once you’ve worked on the grief and pain of your lost expectations. I think that all of us have gone through this last one in 2020 and everyone I know has learned great lessons albeit difficult ones.
The most critical component to creating permanent change is to engage both the soul and the ego. Now is a great time to look over your resolutions, dream bigger, revise your plan and tap on the fears and limiting beliefs about your ability to draw circumstances, people, and resources to you in order to fulfill them.
Here’s a quote from Rabbi Ted Falcon about this time of year:
We enter this New Year with hopefulness. The energy signature of “hopeful” opens and aligns us with possibilities of what may be. To be an active participant in realizing these possibilities (in ourselves, for humanity, for the planet), we can use the energy of hope to propel us into the higher vibrations of Consciousness, like the gravitational force of the Sun slinging the Earth into a New Year. From this place, from this higher consciousness, we illuminate creative solutions that we hadn’t yet been able to see.
It is through clarifying and supporting our Sacred Intentions that we sustain the opening to vibrations of higher consciousness. We cannot uplift and transform ourselves by New Year’s Resolutions alone. In fact, resolutions create a resistance to the very hopefulness we are wanting to bring forward. We must cultivate our own sacred intentions as a touchstone that draws us to the fulfillment of our hopes and dreams for the New Year. Hopefulness pairs well with Sacred Intention; hopefulness creates the opening and Sacred Intention becomes the Way.
Here are 5 ways to use EFT to bridge the gap between resolutions and change:
- Spend time identifying what you really want and then tap on any shame, guilt or embarrassment at the idea of owning that desire.
- Imagine having attained that change and see how it feels. Are you excited and elated or do negative feelings come up? Tap on the negative feelings
- Ask yourself if you feel you deserve it. If you don’t feel that way, tap on why you think you don’t.
- What is the greatest potential for your change? In other words, how can it be aligned with your soul’s journey of expansion? The bigger the why the easier the how! Tap on any fears that come up as you explore this.
- Start to develop an action and resource plan then imagine taking a small first step. Tap on any negative feelings you have when you think about that.
Another important aspect is to find support for yourself so that you can build the energetic field for your intentions and feel that you are held accountable for committing to the path of change. This is exactly what we do in our annual Ready, Set, Manifest program. There’s still time to join us.