Can divorce or separation be a spiritual gift?
This time of year (between New Year’s Eve and Valentine’s Day) historically, has been when the most relationship separations and divorces occur. Between emotions running high, a new year’s re-evaluation of life’s direction and the proximity of family during the holidays, many people face the fact that they can no longer be with their partner any longer. If you (or someone you know) is going through a separation or if you haven’t yet healed completely from a relationship that ended, please consider accessing the full article and tapping script on this topic.
Can divorce or separation be a spiritual gift? If you are feeling hopelessness, anger, and despair at this point in your process, you might not be able to see that gift, but with EFT, it is possible. Tapping on what is, coming to acceptance, and finding peace are some of the ways to see the blessings.
The top reasons for divorce (and breakup for that matter) are infidelity, communication breakdown, abuse (physical, emotional), money issues, sexual issues, feeling disconnected, child-rearing conflicts, addiction, and incompatibility due to cultural or religious differences. EFT can’t save a marriage that’s destined to fail and it can’t break up a marriage that’s destined to end but it does transform what can seem like a traumatic event into an opportunity for spiritual growth. When you are able to grasp the concept from a quantum view you’ll understand that people come into our lives for only 3 reasons – to share some information with us, to confirm or mirror what we believe about the way the world works or about ourselves, or to push us further along towards fulfilling our life’s purpose. It’s what I like to call a reason, a season or a lifetime. Just like we are destined to connect with some people, we are destined to disconnect with others. It’s often a challenge to see the bigger perspective. Not sure whether to end a relationship or keep trying? Try When to End it
When I look over my life and the lives of my clients I notice that every big T trauma that we go through has led to expansion and that’s exactly what the soul wants. It’s the ego that judges this as bad. The ego is responsible for our safety. It’s logical, rational, and doesn’t understand anything that it hasn’t experienced first-hand. The ego hates the unknown. The ego doesn’t understand how you’ll be okay without your former partner. You can hear its child-like voice. If you’ve ever been around a precocious five year old they’ll always be asking why. Why is the sky blue? Why do I have to eat now? In a divorce the ego will ask “Why do they hurt me so much? Why did he abandon me? Why did she betray me? Why did I behave so badly?” The ego is the martyr, the victim, the walking wounded. The soul on the other hand is a completely different animal, the soul wants growth. When you are stretching yourself to be able to deal with the pain of what is happening for just one more day, the soul is full of joy. When your entire life has changed, you live in a different place, you are alone instead of with your partner every day, when you are in the vast sea of the unknown the soul is shouting “YAY, look at all that learning, lessons, a chance at so many blessings.”
What can you be doing to gain clarity and guidance? EFT! Why is it important to connect with God/Universe/Creator during a divorce? Because we can’t see the bigger picture, because we don’t know all the reasons why this is happening for your spiritual growth and expansion then it’s easier to surrender and allow God to help. With all the chaos, noise and pain that happens in a divorce, it’s easy to get lost and not notice that you have the answers when you need them. There is a small still voice that’s still there to help and guide you. The story I always tell about my experience with this was my own journey to healing. I spent 12 years trying to find a cure for what I had and when I finally stopped looking and searching for the answer on my own, I just prayed and said “God if I am meant to heal you have to show me how” and that’s when I was guided to EFT. In one week’s time no less! My journey through my own divorce was exactly the same.
Here’s a tapping prompts to help you through this time:
Tap on times when you asked for guidance and support from God/Creator/Universe and didn’t receive it
Tap on the painful memories associated with the current relationship
Tap on worst case scenarios both for staying or ending a relationship
Tap on guilt you feel that others (be specific about who and how exactly this will happen in your mind) will be hurt
Tap on the loss of a dream to be in this relationship
Tap on the feeling that’ll you’ll be alone
Use Matrix Reimprinting Future Imprinting to create a picture of you in the future and assist your future self if there are any fears
Many blessings on your healing journey,